Help me Obi Wan Kenobi, You’re My Only Hope. Carrie Fischer the actress who will forever be tied to Princess Leia’s first lines in the 1977 Star Wars film recently has started her own advice column at TheGuardian.com. YES, Ask Carrie Fischer advice column is a thing now.
As the daughter of Debbie Reynolds and Eddie Fischer she was destined to be in film. She will forever be ingrained in our brains as the young 20 something with the bun hair in that movie that made SciFi main stream in the 70’s, and well 80’s with the sequels. Turns out, she has mad fab writing skills, including a biography and screenplays. She has taken her writing skills and life experience to an advice column from theguardian.com.
I have been a fan of Carries since Star Wars but also LOVE her other performances including “When Harry Met Sally” as Sally’s bestie Marie and the love interest for Bruno Kirby – RIP Bruno. Remember this?
- Marie: The point is, he just spent $120 on a new nightgown for his wife. I don’t think he’s ever gonna leave her.
- Sally Albright: No one thinks he’s ever gonna leave her.
Carrie has never been afraid to share her life through her writing, I read Postcards From the Edge and loved the movie. Her candor and life wisdom comes through in her writing and her columns. From a recent column where a reader asked advise regarding her marriage and husband who had been frequenting women from the world’s oldest profession for years, here is some of Carrie’s response, a portion of her advice:
His lying about the prostitutes shows you that he’s ashamed of his behavior. He didn’t want to hurt you. None of this justifies his behavior, but it explains it – superficially at least. You’ve been together a long time. I think it’s worth maintaining your marriage. Forgive him. It’s the most amazing thing to be able to forgive. And so difficult. But relationships are difficult. You’ve managed to maintain your commitment to him. You’re the better person in that arena and in the position to forgive. Resentment, on the other hand, is a toxic experience. Superior and final – and when you walk away, what have you got?
You’re already doing the right thing – seeking help, in the way of therapy – and even me – yay!’ Ive not managed to sustain a relationship and in many ways I wish I had. There is no true bottom line for this question – there are many. You know what I think? It sounds like it’s similar to what you think based on the actions you’ve already taken. He needs to prove he’s ready to stop hanging around with hookers. You need to be able to punish him for as long as you may have already and then no more. But he has more to prove than you do. I want him to send you a present or get you flowers. If he doesn’t, I will. You’re a good gal and don’t deserve this. I’m proud of you for taking the long road and not the easiest and fastest. You’ve already proven you can go the distance. It might get easier as you go – it might not. It sounds like it’s worth trying. In which case we all owe you a present. Post me your address and see what you get. A stone, a leaf, an unfound door, some cliché flowers or perfume and a dress. Keep in touch. Good luck, and keep up with the gusto. I’m cheering.
LOVE her…..she is showing the power of Forgiveness, AND acknowledging this reader is doing the right thing with professional help. Plus she acknowledges “I CARE”. I think the world needs more of this.
Look if you are feeling blue or depressed, seek professional help first. If you happen to seek advice from Carrie on The Guardian, she has some sound advice. Hey, she’s been around the block, she knows some things.